Dr. Dan Montgomery’s Self Compass And Compass Therapy growth tool are scientifically validated models of self-understanding that provide 21st Century Coping Tools for people of all world beliefs, religions, cultures and ethnic groups.
Love and Assertion, and Weakness and Strength: these complimentary polarities are the LAWS of personality and relationships. Healthy people express both tender care and diplomatic assertion. They are competent and strong, yet humbly aware of their weakness, maintaining rhythmic access to all four compass points of the Self Compass. By enlisting these compass points in rhythmic dialogue, people find the hidden originality of their selfhood that yields a dynamic, flexible personality.
Once you understand and apply the simple but powerful SELF COMPASS, you’ll receive inner guidance to navigate all the challenges of every day life—whether in your family system, career, education, business, or dating and mating. You will live freely and creatively. Not grim with a stiff upper lip, but tripping the light fantastic, stress free and happy.
Why not make life better on every front, and learn how to keep it that way the rest of your life?
However, human beings are less than perfect; they often get stuck in self-defeating personality trends that are too loving, too assertive, too weak, or too strong. The Trends Compass both diagnoses where people are stuck and offers guidelines for growth out of these rigid trends.
What happens when one or more compass points are exaggerated or avoided at the expense of the others? Exaggerated love deteriorates into Dependent pleasing and placating. Unchecked assertion escalates into Aggressive blaming and resenting. Overblown weakness collapses into Withdrawn detaching and avoiding. Inflated strength balloons into Controlling dictating and judging.
How is the path for growth determined? By recognizing where a person is stuck. The Withdrawn pattern, for example, requires growth stretches toward the opposite compass point: Strength. With guidance, the person’s thoughts can shift over time from “No one feels as scared as I do. I may as well give up,” to “I might blow this, because I’m human. But I’m doing it anyway.” Confidence, balanced by humility, as appropriate to the situation.
“I love the systematic and creative thought that went into Dr. Dan Montgomery’s Compass Personality Theory. I am fascinated by the SELF COMPASS. It has an intuitive resonance and it synthesizes what we know about the human psyche, its pitfalls and redemption. The growth orientation of the Compass Model offers a transformation mindset that can benefit any reader. Well done!”
— Darca Narvaez, Ph.D., Professor Developmental and Moral Psychology, UNIVERSITY OF NOTRE DAME
“I’ve waited a long time for a book like this! Like a caring counselor in private session, Dan Montgomery writes to anyone who thinks being a Christian means conforming to someone else’s pattern. To anyone turned off by squabbling among denominations. To anyone who believes his current situation is hopeless. To anyone seeking a more intimate walk with Father, Son and Holy Spirit.”
— Guideposts Magazine, Elizabeth Sherrill
“Compass Psychotheology offers a fascinating and creative perspective on how psychology and theology are necessary partners in understanding human nature, its vulnerabilities and the possibilities for transformation.”
— Lallene J. Rector, Ph.D., Psychology of Religion Professor, Garrett-Evangelical Theological Seminary, Northwestern University